In the Crucible, many people grudges against one another. A prevalent grudge is that which Abigail holds for Elizabeth Proctor and vice versa. A shared lust for John creates quite the hateful relationship between the two women. Fortunately, holding grudges does nothing to improves one's life. In the best case scenario it motivates you to improve yourself to be better than the other person, and even that can only be applied in certain circumstances. Most of the time it sparks evil deeds, if any at all.
My current priest said to me once that "Holding a grudge is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die", which, I think, couldn't have hit the head of the nail any more perfectly. A grudge is simply an idea that takes place in one's mind that the other person is mean and harsh, when most often they're not. Once a grudge takes place, the mind usually makes up all these ideas and reasons as to why the other person is unlikable but most often they are little nuisances that any other person wouldn't even notice. Like "She always taps her pencil and chews her eraser" or "Why does he wear that ugly hat/shirt/shoes" or "He says 'whatever' or 'like' too much". Again, most people don't take notice to these little things and usually only those who are looking for reasons to hate find them. Usually, those reasons aren't even there.
Personally I try not to hold grudges as they do no good in my eyes, but like anyone else I can't say with complete honesty that I am grudge-free. They're especially difficult to erase when a grudge is formed and then contact with the other person is halted. The chance for reconciliation disappears almost completely and usually the grudge sits until the other person is forgotten. If not, then a person will just keep on grudging (it's actually a word? Sweet.) Next week will be part 2 of this blog, specifically concerning the Armenian Genocide. Who knows, maybe a part 3?
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