In my previous post I discussed grudges, and here's the second part of the post. A grudge is a common thing to come by in the modern world, but aren't usually the topic of a dinner discussion. They are seen as a bad thing by society, but nobody really takes initiative to end a grudge, which confuses me. Nobody really likes them, and they rarely have any positive effects, so why have them? Somehow I feel that pride, revenge, and inability to forgive come into play. For some reason when a person is overly hubristic and revengeful after they have been wronged is seen as good in society. When you forgive them, it's seen as weak or spineless, which is completely backwards.
A perfect example of this is wth Armenians and the Armenian Genocide. A lot of the Armenians despise the Turkish people (those responsible for the genocide), even though all those who partook in the genocide have died. One of the common sayings is to say "They are not people, they are shoon" when the topic of Turkish people comes up. Shoon means dog, so the Hye-Stansi's (or hardcore Armenians who are very proud of their heritage and history) call the Turkish filthy dogs because they were responsible for the genocide. This grudge has spanned over many generations and thousands of people, and still does no good for anyone, anywhere.
In conclusion, grudges are undesirable and useless. I cannot fathom as to why you would hold one, or even want to.They have no positive effect on their holders, and create hostile and awkward situations later on when you, undoubtably, see the person you are gruding against again. Moral of the blog- Don't hold grudges.
Ara, to be frank I did not know about the Armenian Genocide. This may be because I don't watch the news or anything like that, or because, as many would say, Americans are ignorant to the pain and struggles of others. I don't completely agree with that last statement though.
ReplyDeleteThat said, I do agree with you that grudges are generally a bad thing to hold onto. I have some of them, but then, so does everyone. Good blog Ara.
The Armenian genocide was a brutal travesty, and I agree with you that grudges are pointless. Holding a grudge does nothing good for you, and it prevents friendships from occuring and build up unnecasary walls between people.
ReplyDeleteThis is really interesting, and i agree with you completely. Society changes with time, and just because someone might be distantly related to someone who had horrible ideals doesn't mean they hold the same ideals themselves. I also think grudges sometimes have something to do with pride, and not wanting to appear "weaker" by letting it go, or moving on.
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